talking with coaches

Parents can play a huge part in the recruitment process, making or breaking it at times even.

“We invited a recruit on a visit, but the entire time, I couldn’t connect with her—her mom answered every question. Despite her talent, I had to take her off our list.” Coach Joyce Wellhoefer

• Let Your Athlete Lead the Conversation: Coaches want to build relationships with student-athletes, not their parents. 

  • Encourage your child to send emails, make phone calls, and ask questions during visits. This shows maturity and ownership of the process.

• Be a Quiet Advocate: During recruiting visits or calls, parents should listen actively and only step in when appropriate. 

  • Let your athlete speak first, and then ask thoughtful, relevant questions that show you’re engaged in finding the right fit.

• Know When It’s Okay to Step In: It’s appropriate for parents to enter the conversation when discussing:

  • Financial aid, scholarships, and tuition details

  • Housing, safety, and medical care on campus

  • Academic support services and graduation rates

  • These are important logistical and long-term concerns where your perspective can be helpful.

• Keep It Professional: When you do interact with coaches, be respectful, positive, and brief. 

https://www.facebook.com/NCSAsports. (2025, September 26). What Do College Coaches Look for in Parents? NCSA College Recruiting. https://www.ncsasports.org/parents-recruiting-tips/coach-communication